Dear Its a Guy Thing,I go out on a lot of dates and for this New Year I want to limit them to only the good ones. I’m tired of dating at such a young age. I’m pretty sure I have dated every kind of guy and I feel like after each date they have taken something with them...a part of me. They know me. I’m no longer a random girl but when they never call back or I lose interest I feel like it was a waste of time. I’m looking for a partner so I want one of these dates to surprise me.Do men also feel the same? Or do they simply do it for the company?Jennifer

----------------------------------Dear Jennifer,It seems that you are complaining about the quality of dates you’ve gone on. If I’m correct in this, I say to you "join the rest of us”. The entire point of dating is separating the grain from the chaff. I mean, what are the chances that you’ll find Mr. Right on the first date? Or indeed the second. I think that you need to become a bit more patient and give people a chance. Just because the last few dates weren’t successful doesn’t mean that you are doomed to have similarly unsuccessful ones. When men date, they are looking for good company, sex (if you are unlucky) and (if you are lucky) a long-term relationship. I think that that is the same for women as well. Don’t give up. Your partner is out there, looking for you as well.  If you have any queries, contact me itsaguything@newtimes.co.rw