Not very long ago, boys couldn’t wait to reach the age when they would be treated as men, they would face the circumcision knife or do things grown men do. It filled them with pride and a sense of responsibility to go hunt, provide security and support their families.Today, some men would do anything to escape the responsibility that comes with growing up. It’s said that maturity doesn’t come with age but begins with the acceptance of responsibility. When you look around, you see a good number of men hanging with their man-child friends drinking beer and talking about soccer and other stuff that doesn’t include responsibility.These males will make married men regret why they ever bothered, as they will brag about how they can hook any girl they want or retire home anytime they want without anyone ‘stressing’ them about their whereabouts. They’ll convince them how getting married was the biggest mistake of their life. Imagine losing your freedom, financial strain, not being able to put your  personal needs first, adding lines like, "Don’t worry buddy, it’s not too late to regain your independence ,all you need is to man-up and let that woman know who is in charge, don’t let her treat you like she owns you. You have to show her who the man in that home is,” this home-breaker will advise Mr. Married. I understand many men have never received any true guidance about how to be a man or receive a formal initiation into what one can call conscious manhood but still this is no excuse for taking up permanent resident in ‘boyland’ and try to break the home of real men who decide to grow up and start a family.If growing up is not your thing, it’s okay, people like you are also needed in our society, you can serve as a bad example. But whatever you do, please leave other people’s nuptials alone.Concetrate on being the award winning loser that you are. I know this is a little too much to ask but please respect other people’s affairs and leave the ones who know what they want in life.