It is normal for siblings to compete for their parents’ attention and time. Unfortunately, children may use inappropriate behaviors like whining, tattling, fighting and arguing to belittle or "one-up” their brother or sister.

When it comes to a parent’s attention and time, kids want to know, "Who’s on first?” Most parents admit there is a limit of the time and attention they can give children each day and this is where things get complicated.Parents ask:

How much time should I give to each child? Every child is different, some kids will just want a little of your time while others want to be around you every moment. Spending more time isn’t necessarily better. It’s what you do with the time that counts. Having short but exclusive time with your kids may make him feel like he is special to you.What should parents do when they have a child who is an attention hog? Children who crave attention are telling us two things; 1) they like being around us and 2) they are willing to do anything to get the time and attention they want. As parents we want to make sure that we only give attention for good behavior. When our little attention hog is doing something irritating, completely ignoring him could stop the problem. How can parents avoid feeling overwhelmed when they have more than one child? You can try to make short 5-minute dates with each child every other hour during the times children have the most difficulty getting along. Do simple things like five minute dates for younger children: pushing child on the swing; help rake the leaves, rock in a chair. For older kids a mini date might be a soda after school, five minute computer game or bedside chat.Here are five quick tips to lessen problem behaviors between siblings so you will want to spend more time with your children.Daily Routines: Simple and consistent routines give children a sense of stability, safety and identity especially when some things has changed in the home like getting a new brother or sister. Daily Responsibilities: Help your children feel like they are part of the family by giving them a household responsibility. The responsibility could be something small for a young child such dust busting the sofa or being on towel patrol in the bathroom. While older kids can help you with various household chores. Use Rewards: Make getting along with sibling worth your child’s effort. Use the things she likes to do as rewards. These should be things that don’t cost money and can be done in a short period of time. Use Punishment: A simple and affect negative consequence for a child who does an unkind or disrespectful behavior toward their sibling is to have him do several kind and/or considerate things for their sibling. Enlist Help: Partners can take turns at different times of the day being with their children. Allowing the other person time to regroup away from the children may help them feel more refreshed and capable. If there isn’t a co-parent to call on in the home enlist extend family and good friends to give you a break. parenting.org