Dear Aunt Silvia,
I am a married woman with four children. My eldest son is seventeen years and the youngest is four years old. I went abroad to visit my parents two months ago, and when I came back I was told that some woman was seen driving my car when I was away.

I know that when I left for abroad, I had left my car at the garage, but I was not aware anybody else was going to drive it.

I am deeply hurt by this story, should I confront my husband about this or not, because he has not told me that he had given out my car to anyone let alone a woman. What should I do?`
Diana

Dear Diana,
You know I always say that marriage belongs to two people, you and your husband.

And many a times when one partner is away from the other, you will get to hear so many stories from people who call themselves our friends.

Before you even ask your husband about who the woman is, you should be able to collect facts about the truth of the matter.

Some people do not take accusations very lightly by the way.

This friend who told you this story should be able to establish whether this woman drove your car for these two months that you were away, or she just saw your car being driven by another woman, one day.

Also if you had left your car at the garage, my advice to you is to go to the garage and ask your mechanic if he had ever used your car while you were away. And if he confirms that he has used the car, ask if by any chance his wife could have used the car.

Because I know some mechanics have a tendency of driving their clients’ cars, especially when they know the clients are away for a long period of time, some even go to an extent of giving their clients cars to their wives to drive.

Once you have established the truth from your friend and mechanic, and in between there is some truth in whoever used your car, I urge you to stop the matter there.

But if your mechanic is not owning up, then that is when you can take up the matter with your husband.

I know it hurts deeply when as a woman you find that your things have been given to another woman to use them in your absence.

But some of these material things are not worth your marriage, especially if you are back at home and the car is there.

Asking your spouse about this issue does not mean that it is time to roll sleeves and fight, no. Ask in the politest way possible about the information, so that you iron out issues, instead of building animosity in your marriage.

Let a car not spoil your marriage, you have children to consider in all this matter. If you are not getting any information about the issue, then you can as well try to forget all about the story-because you will stress yourself for nothing and end up being depressed. My dear, a car is not worth your life.

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