Dear Aunt Silvia,
I am a young man married for the last three years. My wife and I are both career people and are very busy. I have been asking my wife that we should try for a child but she seems not to want any.

Now I am wondering whether she loves me. Is it possible for a woman to feel like this or am I being paranoid?

Dany

Dear Dany,
There are things that I always emphasise should be discussed before two people decide to walk down the aisle. That is family, money and trust. During my days if you asked any girl about her dream, the first thing that she would say was to have a husband and children and to live happily ever after in a happy family.

But now young ladies are all about careers-and the new breeds of young liberated women do not seem to like the idea of having children, because according to them children will ground them forever.

Despite a woman’s career, most women dream of having a child or two, but your wife clearly seems to be the opposite. The problem with this situation is that, you cannot force a woman to have children when she is against it.

Can you imagine a baby having being born to a mother who will not shower him/her with love?

In normal circumstances it is every woman’s dream to be called mother, but then it is quite the opposite with your woman.

I would love to believe that when a woman walks down the aisle with a mn, then that automatically means that is the man she has chosen to be the father of her children and whom she would like to spend the rest of her life with.

Now it looks like the trend is changing in high speed.
Men beware out there; before you walk down the aisle with your princess, first ask her if she would like to have children.

This matter am afraid is entirely between the two of you. No third party can help you nor can you force your wife to be pregnant if she does not want a child yet.

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