I am a middle aged man and working as a driver. I don’t know what happened but I found myself involved with the wife of my boss. My boss who is a business man often times he is away on business trips leaving his young wife and children all alone.

Since I am their driver I take this lady everywhere she wants to go, this has made us very close.

For the last eighteen months I have been involved with this woman and whenever I suggest a stop to this illicit affair she threatens to do something stupid.

What do I do, it looks like I am also very much in love with her, but then there is nothing that I can do since she is my boss’ wife. Please, help me get out of this awkward situation.

Sylvester

Dear Sylvester,
It is very wrong to have an illicit love affair with the wife of your boss. It is against the business ethics to betray your employer.

What do you think your boss will feel once he finds out? Will you say you have been treated unjustly when he fires you for insubordination?

Eighteen months is a long time and you should have put a stop to this immediately the woman approached or when she made her first move, but instead you encouraged her and now is when you are feeling the heat because you want out and she doesn’t.

It is understandable that she might be feeling lonely when her husband makes his business trips abroad, but then has she ever aired this to her husband?

Because I know of many businessmen who travel with their wives every now and then to avoid the gap and the loneliness that the woman feels every time he is away.

Maybe she encourages her husband to go away alone on his business trips so that she can have time with you, at the same time waiting to justify her actions by accusing her husband of leaving her behind alone.

Which ever way you view her situation the truth of the matter is that she got married to this man knowing very well that this a business man who will be away on business trips most of the time, so I do not understand when you tell me she complains of his absence at home.

If this friend of yours has difficult time being alone always thinking of her husband, then i advice you to suggest to her that she finds something tangible she can do with her life instead of wasting away thinking of fornicating behind her husband’s back.

Why don’t you suggest that she goes back to school? She can go to college, go to a driving school or if she enjoys reading she can start a reading club with her friends.

If push comes to shove, let her find herself a job to do – because an empty mind is always a devil’s playground.

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