Relationship with the in-laws

When one gets married, they become an additional member of another family. The new family is referred to as in-laws. An in-law is a relative by marriage. However, in-laws differ in character; there are those who are happy with an additional person in the family while others are threatened if there is a new member in the family.

Saturday, July 03, 2010

When one gets married, they become an additional member of another family. The new family is referred to as in-laws. An in-law is a relative by marriage.

However, in-laws differ in character; there are those who are happy with an additional person in the family while others are threatened if there is a new member in the family.

Ways to get along well with your in-laws.

You can always try to build a better, lifelong relationship with your in-laws by knowing your position in conflicts.

Think positively about your in-laws and expand your support network. At least befriend some of your in-laws so that you can have them by your side in case of conflict with the family or your spouse.   However, don’t involve them in your personal problems as they may begin to question your character.

The vital step to getting along with your in-laws is to create a barrier between the relationship with your spouse and the in-laws.

Acknowledging that you are not precisely married to your in-laws, fostering family environment will be created which will in the end limit future conflicts within your marriage.

Always act responsible and prove to them that you’re in control of your home. Most Mothers-in-law or Sisters- in-law usually want to change a few things in the house without your approval.

For example if you host an event make your own food, however don’t order food from the nearest restaurant and pass it off as your own because the act is unpleasantly in the presence of your in-laws.

A considerable lesson in relationship with your in-laws, except in all relationships, is to keep things in your point of view, if you sense a clash coming on with your mother-in-law or father-in-law just lessen the situation before jumping to conclusions.

If you fail to do so then you will catalyze the situation and eventually assist in the blowing up the relationship between yourself and the in-laws.

Both you and your in-laws need to gain a mutual understanding and acceptance of each other. It is impossible for your in-laws to let their sentinel down before knowing you.

The process definitely takes time; however, you’re on the right path to a strong friendship if you are able to successfully fulfill this mission.

If you opt to living with the in-laws, make sure the lines of communication are open. Talk with your in-laws specifically on your dislikes, likes, and personal limitations. The heart-to-heart talk is considered to be very helpful.

Be respectful, it may eventually hollow your scrutiny about your character by your in-laws.  One loses nothing when they respect the parents of their loving spouse.

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