Although every relationship has some internal friction on inconsequential matters, watch out when it exceeds the limit. A toxic relationship is one in which you are feeling harmed either emotionally or physically.

The toxic relationship is very unhealthy and it can leave you stranded in an emotional stalemate.   In a presence of toxic people reminiscent of friends, parents and partners with mood swings, short temper yet they never adjust thus preserving their love.

Loren Keza is courting, her partner is always asking her whereabouts yet he does not take her for outings, a total ‘control freak’.

You can determine a toxic relationship if partners act in these ways: when he/she isolates one from his or her family and friends, excessively possessive and over powering, over dependent, most opinions and accomplishments are devalued, being blamed for the failing relationship and low self-esteem.

Toxic relationships can be avoided or stopped, seek help from a professional counselor. What determines if a relationship is a toxic one? The relationship cannot maintain unity because it suffers from internal sabotage.

In most cases, the internal conflict overshadows anything. The couple fights more against each other than they do together against outside challenges. While difficulties, such as financial pressure, illness, or injury present challenges to any relationship, a toxic relationship will manufacture its own crisis’; thus, helping to create financial and physical problems.

What is it that causes us to get involved in toxic relationships?

There are many reasons why we choose toxic relationships. We may have grown up in a toxic household, we may have been taught that we are not deserving of happiness, or we may have learned to take responsibility for others.

One of the most important things to remember about being in a toxic relationship is that you do have choices and you can get out of it.

We stay in relationships because we do not understand that we have rights and options. Low self-esteem, depression, fear of being alone, or threats from the hurtful partner sometimes makes people in a toxic relationship.

Although low self-esteem can be a very complex experience, the bottom line is that the person does not have a good and clear sense of themselves, and so it is almost impossible, without medical intervention, for that person to understand that there is a better, healthier way to relate without being intimidated.

Part of why the toxic person hurts, in addition to having to do with their own low sense of self, is that fear of being out of control and the fear of what exposing the true self would mean.

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