Dear Aunt Silvia,

My Name is Didier and I am 40 years old, I work in a Government Institution, and I would like you to find me a partner for life. I am serious and I have wasted much time; but now I want to leave it.

I am ready to give you my details from physical status up to my emotions, manners and behavior. I am still single. I have read your advices  so many times. I am saved and would want you to help me.

Didier

Dear Didier,

I wish I knew where to find a good girl for you and introduce you to one, but unfortunately I am not in the position – but there is still hope for you as to how you can find yourself a good girl.

First of all you must know the type of girl you’re looking for before you or anyone attempts to get you that girlfriend- at least make a list of what you would like in your future wife, such as intelligence, looks, ambition, sense of humor, or respect for other people’s feelings and reverential fear of God.

As much as it is important to look for good qualities, just make sure you are not looking for a woman with qualities of an angel, because they are non-existent here on earth.

Look for realistic features, so that you do not end up being disappointed, like many people out here who have high expectation on meeting Mr or Mrs Perfect.

You must also expand your horizons and your circle of friends not just at your local church, but other people like family friends or even work mates.

There is no way out for you to meet different girls and choose one for yourself, if you will just zero graze at your local church. You can start by attending other functions like weddings, parties or even ask your friends to invite you to their family gatherings.

Without going far, start considering any unattached girls who you went to school with or work place and neighborhood; ask your mutual friends to blind date you with unattached girls.

If you don’t have the nerve to directly approach a girl who has caught your eye, consider being her secret admirer for a while and ask someone you trust to discreetly tell her about your interest, before you go to her directly to scare her off.

Attract the type of girl you’re looking for by emphasizing your best features and downplaying undesirable traits – if you show a girl any negative portrait she will take off so fast before you know her second name.

Make the most of what you have, both physically and mentally and learn how to make a girl feel good about herself by taking an interest in her life and her aspirations, listen to her while she talks and talk only when it is necessary.

Last but not before you enter into this relationship, you must resolve old hurts and disappointments and be ready for a new relationship, by setting aside any grievances about old girlfriends.

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