Size is an illusion

I have always scorned people who covet body shape ahead of character or lifestyle. You find young women wishing they had a boyfriend with the body of Will Smith, or young men comparing every girl to Salma Hayek.

One thing for sure is that body size is dynamic and it changes without the owners will due to many big and small factors.

During my first year at campus, a friend of mine had a crush on a pretty girl. This girl had the finest body ever.

He did all he could to capture her attention—he even borrowed money from me that he has never paid back to this date. Eventually she caved in and within the first year of their relationship, everything seemed perfect until we went for our four month holidays.

When we reported back the following semester, I almost fainted when I saw miss gorgeous. She had gained so much weight and had ballooned!

My friend who hadn’t seen her that holiday since he had spent his holidays in the village was as surprised as I was when he met his girlfriend. While she happily tried to hug him, he seemed like he wanted to run away, but because he was still in a state of awe, he froze.

That night, he sadly narrated to me how for the first time in his life, he had been deluded by a girl’s body size. 

Imagine if he had married her because of her attractive body. Wouldn’t this young man be cursing every minute he looked at her?

However, he had fallen in love with her character too. He didn’t dump her since he believed that size was dynamic. They stayed together and never parted ways. 

This implies that body shape only comes as an added value. It should never be put at the apex on the list of qualities that a person looks for in a partner.
Character is long lasting, unlike attractive or unattractive bodies.

That is why it should be a priority to consider someone’s character before you start dating them.

Would you date a girl with a drop-dead gorgeous body but has the most appalling manners? If a guy has muscles and a six pack but has a flaring temper and hits you, are you  still going to say yes when he proposes?

We must learn to accept people as they are regardless of their size. this is what makes a beautiful and lasting relationship. Body size is just an illusion where only fools rush in; an illusion that teaches us that not all that glitters is gold.

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