Why is it that professional and well established women, often fall in love with the most hopeless men.

Breaking their hearts, and in the process ruining their lives? Imagine a day passing without receiving a call from him or at least a text. Hum!

That so-called special person in your life, who makes your toes twist back-wards, and makes your heart skip every time you think about him is turning your hopes down.

"Darling, I’m always held up at the office, but I think about you all the time.” Does this man really have you in his mind? Do his actions signal something to you?

Often, women become so fragile when it comes to relationships. They literally "Fall in Love” and become victims. Too afraid to stick to their principles, and as fate dictates, they end up blinded with that smallest sign that "He might be in love”.

But when a man gives excuses like "he’s too busy, he forgot to call back, he needs time to sort out some few issues”. Just be smart enough to know that this man is simply trying to be too polite.

He is hiding the bitter truth that the relationship is over. Or worse, that he is not interested in. You might decide to give it time and see how things unfold, but he continues with his "Monkey Tricks”.

Darling, listen to this frightening reality. This man does not have you in mind—and you have to face it.

Women often defend their lovers’ radically behaviour. These justifications are as absurd as misplaced fingers that keep dialing a pathetic loser.

The result is you end up depressed and becoming obsessed with a man, whose aim is to torture you psychologically and dump you.

In some instances he may not even have hinted to you that he is in love with you, but you keep hoping  it would be so.

But again, it is almost a week since you last saw him. By the way, when was the last time both of you went out on a date? Only God knows!

Infatuated with him, you now try to rewind that evening. Those romantic words and treatment he gave you, but nothing gives a clue to any thing substantial.

He once asked you to spend a night over his house but when you rejected, he decided to end the conversation angrily. He sends a text after a week asking, "Why are you so silent,” adds a subtle "I miss you”.

Next time, he calls you in the late hours of the night after a drinking spree with his buddies.  If you turn his offer down, he never calls you again for as long as time would tell.

The situation is frustrating. He is confusing you and making your life complicated for no reason at all. Read between the lines.

This man doesn’t love you but he is only playing on your emotions. The idea is not to persist but to realize that this man is a time waster and you are better off getting him out of your company.

Relationship experts would agree with me that when a man loves you, he let’s you know it. He calls, shows up, apologies, and cherishes you.

He can’t keep his eyes, ears off from you. And most importantly, he will always care and be therefore for you.

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