Dear counsellor,Presently I have a job, but my parents want me to do my university education in Kenya, which requires me to leave yet I see a better future at the firm where I am. I have tried convincing them, but they seem not to buy my idea. I’m desperate, please advise on a way forward.Yours Christella

We all face obstacles in pursuing our goals, whether on professional or personal grounds. Making the switch from working to studying can be rather challenging. If you meet parental resistance regarding your employment, there are considerable ways you can deal with this state of affairs more successfully and work toward agreements via significant discussions with your parents. The key thing is to lavish them with unconditional obedience and respect plus cooperation both of which connote mutual consideration and crucial tools to put across your opinion and influence. Your parents are a reason for your existence; therefore they want you to live up to the best life. Appreciate all the things they do for you including paying your tuition however, just define your priority and peacefully standing your ground to the fact of your career. Work on the best durable approach that enlists new assistance from close family friends and relatives to help convince your parents about your job and your studies. Working helps one understand the real world and gain practical insights, which makes learning more effective.

This is your life, your journey and your happiness, so own it and make it clear that you won’t sway from your dream. Negotiate and compromise with your parents if possible, but make sure you leave the conversation with your heart fluttering. You can suggest to them about the available options of pursuing your studies on a part-time basis so they would get you a University within Rwanda and work while study but be confident to reassure them of your completion plan to create a sense of urgency and trust.

You have a good reason for committing to this job. Maybe you’ve visualized a financially free future and employment opportunities once you long establish and acquaint yourself with this working environment. In fact those who have worked are in a better position to identify which course will advance their career best, and make focused, informed choices.

Similarly, many employees believe that people with some work experience are best suited for better performance and seem innovative than their counterparts. Furthermore, individuals with work experience can fund their studies, easing the financial complications that often accompany studying outside of your country. So just scale back your time commitment and have your parents support you in your studies as well as continue with your employment.