Dear Aunt Silvia,

I am a single young lady and have been having problems finding a man to love me until recently when I met one.
The man I met seemed to be very mature, kind and loving.

It is has been six months since we started dating , he had all the time in the world when we first met, but now he is too busy even to answer my call.

What could be the problem? I have so much love for him that I feel betrayed by what he is doing to me. I had poured out all the love I had in me to him. Wivine.

Dear Wivine,

You seem to have started your relationship on a bad note, by showing the guy how desperate you are for his love, so you scared him stiff and he fled!

Let me tell you something about relationships, once you show someone that you can’t live without them, or without them you are not complete then trouble starts simply because men like strong women, who can stand up to anything, not a woman with feet made of clay who thinks the world will come to an end when the man is not there.

You need to show a man that you are your own person, so that he can compliment you not to complete you. Also men want a woman who will stand up and actually have the guts to say no to some of their demands, if you said yes to his first demand-then you have altered his love for you, he now thinks that you are cheap and maybe you give in to other demands easily.

So first thing for you to do is to wear a very tight belt, meaning no giving in the first time you meet a man. Then you need to look ahead and move on, life does not stop there just because Harry has left in a hurry. He is not worth it, my dear, so you need to look for that special.

A word of wisdom: When someone does not want you, never force yourself on him. Respect their decision and move on. Don’t let it harbor in your heart or try to get to hurt them or keep fighting to have them.

Hey, sometimes some things are just aren’t meant to be and at times it’s a blessing in disguise.

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