The underbelly of living a balanced and satisfying life is not what we do, how we go about our daily lives, or even the idea of "having it all.” The real foundation of a satisfying life is taking time to appreciate all the good things we tend to take for granted everyday. Finding contentment is easy when we engage with the world from a place of gratitude. 

How do you learn to practice gratitude? An easy first step is to make a list of all the things that you are thankful for today: your health, strength, intelligence, creativity, your friends, family, colleagues, and neighbors, your ability to work, play, rest, and enjoy life, your food, clothes, shelter, and comforts, your education, life experiences, successes, and accomplishments – all of it! There is so very, very much to be thankful for. 

As you make the list, pause with each new item and close your eyes. If it is a person, think about what it is about them that makes you so grateful. Take a moment to allow yourself to feel the joy they bring you. Consider what your life would be like without them. Write about all of the amazing qualities they possess. If you did this for just one person a day, you might easily spend the next several weeks with a big smile on your face.

Reflecting on and feeling gratitude is important, but even more powerful, is the choice and ability to express it.

When was the last time you called your brother or sister just to say, "Thank you for being you.” Or looked your children in the face and reminded them, "I am so thankful for the joy and laughter you bring to my life.” Gratitude is not just a gift to yourself, but to others. You can change a person’s day, week, year, or even their life, just by being open about what they mean to you and how grateful you are for them.

I know there are some people reading this thinking, "I don’t have anything to be grateful for. I’m low on money. My health is poor. My back hurts. And I don’t like work.” I get that. But its all about how you look at the world around you. Can you change your frame of reference to focus on and be grateful for the money you do have? For the positive health changes that are going really well? For the parts of your body that feel great? And for the things about work you find enjoyment in? There can be gratitude even in times of upset or sadness. Its just about searching for it and taking the time to recognize it.

So here’s the plan: thank someone today. Anyone. Thank the woman who makes you breakfast for her kindness. 

Or the bank teller for being so helpful. Or your parents for giving birth to you. Make it good and make it meaningful.

Go on and say it… "Thank you!”

Billy Rosa is a Registered Nurse, Integrative Nurse Coach