Dear counselor,

I am a Muslim and have been married for six years now. I recently received news that my husband has another family. I know my religion permits this but I made it clear to him that I wouldn’t tolerate it and he agreed to stay monogomous.

My kids are aged five and three and my co-wife’s are four and three. She is also pregnant. My sisters-in-law know her and meet up with my husband at her home but they never come to mine. My husband works upcountry but comes home over the weekend.

However, I realised he has been absent very many weekends, and always gives me stories. I suspect he goes to her house. Before we got married, my husband had three kids with a previous wife and to make matters worse, they spend holidays with this woman.

What should I do? Confront my hubby and tell him to choose a family? Please advise me because I’m broken.

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Yudayah