Dear Aunt Silvia,

I am a married man and a father of four. When I married my wife she was so good to me and very submissive. I was very proud to have gotten a woman with family values and all that a man needs from a woman.

Unfortunately, we are now aging and my wife is becoming very unruly to me. Nowadays she asks everything in a loud voice and orders me around.

I fail to understand what is wrong with her yet I have provided to the best of my ability everything for her and the children.
What do I do?

Martin.

Dear Martin,

It’s good to note that you have appreciated your wife from the word go. You even go ahead to praise her. Very few men can admit that they married good women who later changed due to circumstances.

Sometimes, when people start behaving the way they should not, it’s because they are under pressure or maybe under duress of some sort.

Try and find out whether she is going through a problem that you are not aware of. She might be projecting her frustration to you and you are not getting the hint, so it is only wise to talk to her and find out what is the problem.

May be you are not doing things the right way, and since she cannot tell you straight, she directs her frustration elsewhere.
You know women go through a lot of transformation from the time they get married to the time they start bearing children.

If you can afford to take a whole weekend out of town just for the two of you, you will be surprised to learn how much weight your wife might be carrying.

Aunt Silvia.

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