Recently, students of Group Scolaire Camp Kanombe shared with Education Times how they can avoid engaging in cross-generational sex. 

Maseline Uwase, Senior Five

Sugar daddies don’t have a place in society. They are the biggest sources of HIV/AIDS and someone who wants to infect a young person deserves to be handled by the law. They are usually persuasive and it’s very important to talk to your parents about it.

Vanessa Niyonkuru S.5

I don’t exchange my phone contacts when I meet such people. It’s good to stay away from their temptations because they can easily infect me with HIV/AIDS.

Josiane Ngabire, 13

Sugar daddies are the worst strangers one can ever meet on the road. They usually come driving fancy cars and want to give you a lift. After that they want to take your contacts and keep persuading you to be their ‘friend’. I believe it’s important to talk to your parents when such problems arise.

Shemsa Nyampinga

It’s hard to differentiate between a genuine friend and a sugar daddy these days. Most men first approach you as mere friends but change as time goes on. One way to avoid them is by staying away from bars and clubs at night. It’s better to hang out with your friends all the time.

Raissa Teta, Senior Two

One time a sleek vehicle stopped right behind me, in fact it almost ran over me. The driver pretended to be apologetic and friendly. He even offered me a lift which I declined. When that failed, he persuaded me to give him my telephone number which I did. He kept calling me demanding that we have a relationship but I got rid of him by changing my number.

Palacide Umuhoza, S3

I cannot be rude to a man I’ve seen for the first time because it’s not good. If an older man approached me, I would first listen to him before jumping to a conclusion. In case I realise that his intentions are suspicious, I would quickly seek assistance from my parents or teachers if I can’t completely avoid him.

Kaitesi Claire

I have only one motto and that is a big no to any sort of bad touches. It’s all about keeping a distance from older men and seeking refuge if it gets out of hand. I always involve my parents when I’m faced with such challenges.

Emmy Kwizera, S5

Sugar daddies can be avoided as long as you respect yourself as a girl. It’s also good to have constructive friends because if you meet such a destructive person (sugar daddy), they will be the first to discourage you from dating that person. It, however, requires a lot of discipline and less appetite for materialistic things.

Why girls should avoid sugar daddies 

1: You Can Contract Sexually Transmitted Disease (STDs)

What is the guarantee that you are the only one your sugar daddy is dating? You maybe his number 100th sugar baby. You are highly like to contract sexually transmitted diseases such as gonorrhea, syphilis and even AIDS.

2: You Will Soil Your Education

You can become addictive to your sugar daddy. Why? Sugar daddies know perfectly well how to keep you captive for their sexual gains. They will spoil you with all the good things you want. In a way they divert you education focus to accumulation of materials wealth.

3: Spoil Your Reputation

Bad things don’t remain secret forever. Sooner or later someone will find out your little dirty game you have been playing. When that happens, you will be the center of discussion in the corridors, in the mess, in the streets, in class.

4. Kill Your Potential

The time you could have spent studying to be the best lawyer in the country is spent entertaining a sugar daddy for money, beer and pleasure.

5: It Is unGodly

To the Christians, it is against biblical principles to have sex outside marriage. So if you are a Christian, it is not right to have sex outside marriage because obviously you are not married to the sugar daddy. To the sugar daddy, he commits adultery when he has sex with you. This again is against the moral principles of the Christians.

6: Time Wasting

You are only wasting your time. Sugar papa steals your study time, your project time and even time you could use in finding a potential date who can be your future husband. More likely your sugar daddy will have a legally married wife and children. What makes you think he can walk out of the marriage just like that and marry you?

7: You bring disgrace to your family and friends

How will your mum, dad and brothers and sisters feel if words broke out in the neighborhood that you are dating and even having sex with a rich old guy for money and other possessions? After bringing you to where you are in college you decide to spit that shit on their face? You think about this very carefully my dear friend.

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