Should polygamy be legalised? (Polygamy could help in sticky situations)

I believe that it’s unfair to consent to sharing a marital partner but with the way the world is evolving, polygamy should be legalised to cater for uncertainties.

Thursday, February 13, 2014
Doreen Umutesi

I believe that it’s unfair to consent to sharing a marital partner but with the way the world is evolving, polygamy should be legalised to cater for uncertainties. 

For example if a married man or woman can’t have a child, and one of them decides to have one outside the marriage they are stigmatised. 

For instance the innocent child will be tagged a ‘bastard’ and we all know what that can do to the self esteem of a child. But if polygamy was legalised it would help the parties affected with these uncertainties to have ways to solve the problem without having to get divorced or anything. 

With polygamy legalised, social issues such as single parenthood would be solved along side the issues that arise regarding child custody or property rights.

If one carried out a survey, they would find out that most single parents today had these children with someone who was married and as a way to cover up, they made a deal to support the child but with a binding factor - their spouses should never know.  

Although there are some religions that consent to polygamy, with the Rwandan law limiting marriage to monogamy, to some extent, it limits freedom of religion. 

According to the debate "This house would legalise polygamy” published on idebate.org, the pro-polygamy argued that the law should recognise freedom of choice. 

If somebody wants to marry more than one person, and all parties involved agree, then the state should not get involved. 

The debater further said that we have a right to privacy and a right to non-interference in our family life. These are not absolute rights, but they are important; breach of them needs to be contemplated with extreme care and is not merited here. 

This is particularly important because some religious sects promote polygamy, so banning it also impinges on freedom of religion.

I conclude by saying that legalising polygamy trims down the desire to commit adultery because partners will have the choice to explore other options without sneaking around. 

There is something in our nature that always pushes us into doing the things considered illegal. 

Therefore if polygamy was legalised, and one has the freedom to marry whoever they want, then probably it would not be interesting to step out on your partner with someone else.